"Leadership is influence... nothing more, nothing less." ~J. Maxwell
Sunday, September 16, 2012
After the end…
I had to laugh the other day when I was talking to my
cousin. I officiated the wedding some years back for her and her fiancé.They recently came and visited the house with
the rest of their family, who were from out of state.I figured that my cousin and her now husband
were also living out of state, as they were when I performed the wedding.I totally forgot that I had been told at
least a couple of years ago that they have been living out here for a
while.It was funny to me that everybody
in my family knew this except for me.This reminded me about relating with people during your time of
ministry, wherever that may be.
A former student of mine contacted me a few years after he
had been in our ministry. During his
time at the church, he and I spent a ton of time together because he was very
involved with the leadership piece of our ministry. Now that he was gone off to college we did
not talk very much. In fact, I must
admit that within a couple months of him leaving we did not communicate very
much. I take complete responsibility for
this, as I am the leader in this equation.
However, here is the point.
During that situation I talked to Kevin Cobb and relayed my feelings on
the situation. I felt uneasy because
this kid and I had been pretty close for so long. Kevin reminded me of an important ministry
As our ministry began to grow it was very hard to keep track
of people, even within our own ministry in the present. Kevin told me that during specific seasons of
ministry we would put time into people in different ways. As one’s leadership ability grows, so does
his or her need to make decisions about the people in which they will
invest. During that specific season of
ministry I was probably putting in time to about twenty-five leaders, which
included parents and college students.
My time was limited and Kevin reminded me of this. Although I did not want to give up that
relationship with the kid who had moved on from our ministry, the reality is
that it had to be done, or at least change.
Since that time the good thing is that that student and I
have become close again. It is not the
same because we do not do ministry, but I have been able to rekindle that
friendship. You need to decide what
relationships are pertinent to your specific season in leadership at any given
time. Are you putting the correct amount
of time and to the right people? If
you’re not sure, I would ask somebody that you trust.